10 Things women do to destroy their marriages

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Marriage is a very happy and blessed gift from God, and it was intended to be a small heaven on earth. Before we dive into the 10 things women do to destroy their marriages, we should note that women, as the center of the home, have obligations that, when misapplied or neglected, result in bad marriages. Many marriages are destroyed because of improper care on the part of women.

It is true that God ordained marriage but the responsibilities of human God would not do. He expects us to do our responsibilities accordingly.

That being said, let’s look at the 10 things women do to destroy their marriages:

1. Denying your husband S€x:

Many women have destroyed their marriages because of this one thing. You’re wondering why this is the first point; yeah, it is one of the main causes of many broken homes. S€x is a gift from God to married couples, yet women often don’t fulfill their obligations concerning this. The Bible admonishes that neither husband nor wife should deny the partner s€x and because this counsel is not heeded, many marriages are destroyed. Some women wear short jeans—not just one, but more—to make it hard for the husband to reach out to her. This is outrageous! The only end result is that men who are weak in faith will go on to take mistresses to satisfy their s€xual needs. Most women reject their husbands s€xual advances, putting the marriage in jeopardy. If you are trying to save your marriage and it is still getting out of hand, make sure you are satisfying your husband in bed and make sure to make him happy in the marriage relationship. If you do this, your marriage will get back on track and you’ll be able to bind the family.”1 Corinthians 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence:  and likewise also the wife unto the husband.   4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband:  and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.   5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer;  and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”

2. Shouting at your husband:

Believe me, no marriage is perfect, and all couples fight, but what makes the difference? A respectful wife will not yell at her husband anyway. Yes, once in a while this can happen, and it’s normal, but making it your habit to shout at your husband often would paint a picture in his mind that you do not respect him. If you didn’t know this fact, I’m telling you today that just as women yearn earnestly for love and  affection, so do men also yearn for respect. One thing men really hate is being told that you do not respect them. It’s a huge blow, and it’ll force him to go out and look for a respectable woman. With that in mind, any woman who’ll show some sign of respect to him would gain his attention. We all know what the end result would be if that happened. To protect your marriage, don’t make it your habit to shout at your husband. “Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord.”

3. Not giving your husband attention:

Some women have taken their friends, jobs, and relatives as their husbands while their real husbands are alienated. No one is saying women should not work or have friends, but you should know where the line should be drawn. Some women stay on the phone the whole day. If she is not facebooking, she is snapchatting; if she is not twitting, she is tiktotting, and all this while her husband will be at home alone. Some also go out to spend the whole time with friends having unnecessary conversations and parties, leaving their husbands (and if there are kids too) at home alone. We are to worship God, and God should always come first, but some women misapply God’s service and neglect their God-given responsibilities at home. Spending the whole time at church without giving proper attention to your husband is wrong, and God does not approve of that. This behavior won’t save your marriage but will tear it apart completely. You’ll one day come to meet another woman in your home, and you shouldn’t be surprised.

4. Not cooking for your husband:

Someone once told me that food has great power and that it normally binds the person eating to the cook, especially if he knows the cook. Most women don’t cook at all. They always buy food from food joints and don’t prepare it themselves. Although there are tight schedules, time should be allocated to prepare something for the home. You can spend one time cooking and store it in the refrigerator; you don’t necessarily have to cook every day. Let’s make efforts to protect our marriages.

5. Discussing your S€xual life with your friends:

The marriage bed is a private matter and shouldn’t be made public, but most women make it their talking point. Most women open up to their friends about how their husband is sexually active in bed and how romantic he is. They narrate it in such a way that they are indirectly telling their friends to also have the experience with their husbands. This is very dangerous, and it can destroy your marriage. Not all friends are friends. A friend can snatch your husband from you, so mind what you say,” “Proverbs 13:3 He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life; but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.”

6. Handing your husband over to your housemaid:

Hiring a housemaid is not advisable in the first place, but because some women are so busy, they have no other option. The housemaid’s responsibility is to take care of the house, not your husband. Your husband is your sole responsibility, but most wives neglect this and leave everything in the hands of housemaids. She cooks and serves the husband, lays the bed, cleans the bedroom, and does so many other things that bring her closer to the husband. By the time the wife realizes this, the husband has already chosen the maid over the wife. Let the maid keep the house, but for the things concerning your husband, do them yourself and be more around him.

7. Insulting your husband in public:

Husbands demand the maximum respect and always insulting them even in a jovial way is wrong especially in public space. Calling your husband offensive names is not right and you might think you are just joking but the effect could be bad. You could have a humorous husband but that should not give you the chance to always insult him directly or indirectly. Marital problems always start small and not paying attention to solve them worsen the problem. Don’t underestimate any wrong thing if you want your marriage to work.

8. Nagging Wife:

The Bible plainly said in “Proverbs 25:24 It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.”

A nagging wife is like a thorn in the flesh. Everything the husband does is not considered by the wife. Always complaining and yelling at husband. No matter how hard the husband try to make her happy she does not appreciate. This attitude will make your husband turn away from you and seek for affection somewhere else. To save your marriage start appreciating your husband and seize the complaints you make often. See the good things and appreciate it.

9. Laziness:

A good wife takes good care of the house and she is hard working always keeping the house in order.

King Solomon summarized characteristics of a good wife in proverbs 31.

“Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman?  for her price is far above rubies.   11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.   12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.   13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.   14 She is like the merchants’ ships;  she bringeth her food from afar.   15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.   16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it:  with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.   17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.   18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good:  her candle goeth not out by night.   19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.   20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor;  yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.   21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household:  for all her household are clothed with scarlet.   22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry;  her clothing is silk and purple.   23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.   24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it;  and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.   25 Strength and honour are her clothing;  and she shall rejoice in time to come.   26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom;  and in her tongue is the law of kindness.   27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.   28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed;  her husband also, and he praiseth her.   29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.   30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain:  but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.   31 Give her of the fruit of her hands;  and let her own works praise her in the gates.”

10. Prayer less wife:

When you provide s€xual satisfaction for your husband, you respect him, you cook for him and you do everything a good wife does yet if you don’t pray you can’t stand the daily spiritual forces that’ll come to attack your marriage. The Bible said we are fighting a spiritual battle and we are to be prayerful. Pray without ceasing. “Ephesians 6:10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.   11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.   12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.   13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.”

Without prayers a good wife can’t keep her marriage. through the grace of God you can be victorious in the daily warfare against evil.

In concluding, if wives take note of these 10 things that wives do to destroy their marriages serious, they can amend all broken relationships by the grace of God and restore their marriage life in good state.

Further excerpt:

Wives Submit; Husbands Love.–The question is often asked, “Shall a wife have no will of her own?” The Bible plainly states that the husband is the head of the family. “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands.” If this injunction ended here, we might say that the position of the wife is not an enviable one; it is a very hard and trying position in very many cases, and it would be better were there fewer marriages. Many husbands stop at the words, “Wives, submit yourselves,” but we will read the conclusion of the same injunction, which is. “As it is fit in the Lord.” {AH 115.3}

God requires that the wife shall keep the fear and glory of God ever before her. Entire submission is to be made only to the Lord Jesus Christ, who has purchased her as His own child by the infinite price of His life. God has given her a conscience, which she cannot violate with impunity. Her individuality cannot be merged into that of her husband, for she is the purchase of Christ. It is a mistake to imagine that with blind devotion she is to do exactly as her husband says in all things, when she knows that in so doing, injury would be worked for her body and her spirit, which have been ransomed from the slavery of Satan. There is One who stands higher than the husband to the wife; it is her Redeemer, and her submission to her husband is to be rendered as God has directed–“as it is fit in the Lord.” {AH 116.1}

When husbands require the complete subjection of their wives, declaring that women have no voice or will in the family, but must render entire submission, they place their wives in a position contrary to the Scripture. In interpreting the Scripture in this way, they do violence to the design of the marriage institution. This interpretation is made simply that they may exercise arbitrary rule, which is not their prerogative. But we read on, “Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.” Why should the husband be bitter against his wife? If the husband has found her erring and full of faults, bitterness of spirit will not remedy the evil.
{AH 116.2}

Wives Subject Only As Husbands Are Subject to Christ.–The Lord Jesus has not been correctly represented in His relation to the church by many husbands in their relation to their wives, for they do not keep the way of the Lord. They declare that their wives must be subject to them in everything. But it was not the design of God that the husband should have control, as head of the house, when he himself does not submit to Christ. He must be under the rule of Christ that he may represent the relation of Christ to the church. If he is a coarse, rough, boisterous, egotistical, harsh, and overbearing man, let him never utter the word that the husband is the head of the wife, and that she must submit to him in everything; for he is not the Lord, he is not the husband in the true significance of the term. . . . {AH 117.1}

Husbands should study the pattern and seek to know what is meant by the symbol presented in Ephesians, the relation Christ sustains to the church. The husband is to be as a Saviour in his family. Will he stand in his noble, God-given manhood, ever seeking to uplift his wife and children? Will he breathe about him a pure, sweet atmosphere? Will he not as assiduously cultivate the love of Jesus, making it an abiding principle in his home, as he will assert his claims to authority? {AH 117.2}

Let every husband and father study to understand the words of Christ, not in a one-sided manner, merely dwelling upon the subjection of the wife to her husband, but in the light of the cross of Calvary, study as to his own position in the family circle. “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it; that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word.” Jesus gave Himself up to die upon the cross in order that He might cleanse and keep us from all sin and pollution by the influence of the Holy Spirit. {AH 117.3}
Mutual Forbearance Is Needed.–We must have the Spirit of God, or we can never have harmony in the home. The wife, if she has the spirit of Christ, will be careful of her words; she will control her spirit, she will be submissive, and yet will not feel that she is a bondslave, but a companion to her husband. If the husband is a servant of God, he will not lord it over his wife; he will not be arbitrary and exacting. We cannot cherish home affection with too much care; for the home, if the Spirit of the Lord dwells there, is a type of heaven. . . . If one errs, the other will exercise Christlike forbearance and not draw coldly away. {AH 118.1}

Neither the husband nor the wife should attempt to exercise over the other an arbitrary control. Do not try to compel each other to yield to your wishes. You cannot do this and retain each other’s love. Be kind, patient, and forbearing, considerate, and courteous. By the grace of God you can succeed in making each other happy, as in your marriage vow you promised to do. {AH 118.2}
Let Each Graciously Yield.–In the married life men and women sometimes act like undisciplined, perverse children. The husband wants his way, and the wife wants her way, and neither is willing to yield. Such a condition of things can bring only the greatest unhappiness. Both husband and wife should be willing to yield his or her way or opinion. There is no possibility of happiness while they both persists in doing as they please. {AH 118.3}
Unless men and women have learned of Christ, His meekness and lowliness, they will reveal the impulsive, unreasonable spirit so often revealed by children. The strong, undisciplined will will seek to rule. Such ones need to study the words of Paul: “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” {AH 118.4}

Adjusting Family Difficulties.–It is a hard matter to adjust family difficulties, even when husband and wife seek to make a fair and just settlement in regard to their several duties, if they have failed to submit the heart to God. How can husband and wife divide the interests of their home life and still keep a loving, firm hold upon each other? They should have a united interest in all that concerns their homemaking, and the wife, if a Christian, will have her interest with her husband as his companion; for the husband is to stand as the head of the household. {AH 119.1}

10 Things women do to destroy their marriages

6 thoughts on “10 Things women do to destroy their marriages

  1. M y wife sayès sex is only to have childen . Not sex in our home for more then two years. She wants me build cabinets for our home, and fix things, but itès never good enough

    1. Report the problem to your Pastor or her parents or your parents for a dialogue. Tell her that you need that sex badly , be frank with her and tell her that it’s unbiblical to deny one conuugal rights once married to them.
      Also consider her views and what she bases them on, convince her on the contrary with facts, logics and the Word.

  2. Many men are facing sexual starvation today. Nobody is safe. Nobody is willing to talk about it openly. Many homes are breaking because men have gone to look for sex elsewhere, using family resources.
    I wish we could have this thought to our women. Otherwise, the society’s moral uprightness highly depends on women.

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